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O : e T_# CATHOLIC NORTHWEST PROGRESS Pa" o',,t Sixty-Three You a Good Conversationalist? By HELEN GREGG GREEN Do you believe it impor*Ant to b a good conversationalist or do you follow the lines o[' least recJstance, giving little thought to this sub- ject? We inust 1 talk! If you are in doubt as to your ability, take the test in this article and discover the answer for yourself, *'Conversation aims at enter,'ainment w/'.;ch subt- ly enliqhtens."--John Er:,ae. F the lost arts conversation heads the ltst. As a matter (tO "light re- scorch" may I suggest the next time you are in the corpany of cultivated men and women you study their conversa- tions? In all probability you will discover rule after rule broken or disregarded by at leant one or nit)re persons of the group. In conversation the speaker holds t- tention not by raising his voice but by te value of what he says and the are r(sHag way in which it is saitl. Good conversation is posibe only with these who show r;2'::!nt, as well as era, sider- alien for the li-kcner. I have a friend who belongs to a small dinner club. She tells of one member who conspicuously ruins every converzat!on begun by thoughtful, well-informed men and women. He has acquired the habit of Interrupting guests, drowning out thought-provoRing discussion by the simple expedient of talking louder than any one else. Common courtesy and di[)iomacy de- mand reciprocity in conversation. Ac- cording to "the rules" you say' a few well-ch0sl sentences; it is then anotlier's "turn" and so on! No one slmuld' m.onop- eli:..., or interrupt; ths.t eactf speaker has a gracious, receptive audience ,is impera- tive if conversation is to be stimulating, entertaining and enjoyable. It should never deteriorate into a heavy-handed de.- bate! A bit of sparkle is a must! Among thoughtful persons the speaker hands over the conversation to someone else by looking at him and assuming the listener's attitude. Frequently this gra- cious way of giving another the floor, so to speak, is overlooked. In many ino mgances several others are waiting' to grab the opening: as if it were a treasure no one else must enjoy. Often the de- liberate speaker who hesitates loses his opportunity to enter the conversation. I have a friend who is an avid reader, (even the librarians in his city call him "one of our best readers"); he is also a clever racounteur, but he has a habit of occasionally hesitating in the middle of sentences. Kindness should tell his listeners to respect this idiosyncrasy, (and his wife should tell him in private to overcolne it, which she does!) and permit him this pause, for he is worth lisgening to. Invariably, however, some- one interrupts with an irrelevant remark which interests no one but the speaker. Then there is the pe.rson who mono-" polizes all conversations. Recently my husband and I spent an evening with two of our friends. I averaged a half dozen brief sentences and my husband less. ,It was practically a monologue on the part of each of our friends regarding a subject dear to their hearts. They are an intelligent, otherwise charming couple. 'hen the evening was over I had the feeling our LQ.'s were a possible 80. Much as we like and admire these friends I am glad more time is not spent in their presence. I agree with Channing Pollock in "Harvest of My Years" when he writes, "My friends must do some- thing for me?" Monopolizing a conversation, which Is always possible in a'small group; seems to be a habit that has grown rather than diminished through the years. True artists keep good talk in the open, discussing that in which all are interest- ed, This skill makes for conversation that Is stimulating, enlightening and enjoy- able. Sometimes a single clever remark is more memorable than a half dozen sen- tences involving deeper trends. I recently attended a dinner party where there were a number of distin- guished guests. The conversation had been going smoothly but rather heavy-handed- ly. In a lull one of the lovely women present, the mother of four small children, turned to her dinner partner and smiled, 2 3 6 7 8 9 10 I1 "t 12 i HERE'S THE TEST Do you feel a responsibility, either as host or guest, to as- sure every member of the company a just share in the oon- versation? ' 10 / Do you show restraint, remembering good talk depends upon self-discipline and oonsideration of others for its success? 10 Are you cognizant of the important rule the speaker holds attention by what he says and the way he says it, not by raising his voice? 10 Do you remember to leave the conversation in as interest- ing a condition as when you took it over? 10 Since listening is an art in itself, do you cultivate this ;ra- claus habit; avoiding the holding-your-peace attitude until ,you can leap on the topic being discussed? 10 Are you aware the cultivated person passes on the oonver- sation to some one else by looking at the next speaker and taking on the listener's attitude? 8 Do you realize it is tiresomely selfish to hold the floor overly long? 10 Do you make an effort to do your share of the talking, no more, no less? 10 Are you able to talk well on at least one interesting sub- ject? 10 Do you remember conversation must be kept stimuLating to all concerned? 8 Are subjects avoided by you which might be painful,hurtful or embarrassing to any one else present? 10 Do you make an effort to talk interestingly and in;eelligently, avoiding clumsy chatter? 10 "'If they'd talk about Peter Rabbit I could get in on the conversation!" The guest rapesteal the witty remark and everyone laughed, happy over the light trend the conversation had taken. Dr. Frank Crane once wrote if he were to live his life over again he would learn to talk small talk well. Undoubtedly many people lack social grace; and have no particular desire to learn. I belong to Dr. Crane's school of thought: small talk can be delightful ! At this point you may be Wondering what kind of conversationalist you are? Follow this test, grade yourself and dis, cover your failings and assets! If your grade is 100 you are to be congratulated; if 60 you are a middle-of-the-road person; if below 60, you need to work on those weak spots. A bill collector found a bachelor farmer milking his one cow. "I'll be through in a minute," he grunted. He finished his milking, lifted the pail to his mouth, drank deeply, poured the remaining milk on the ground, and hung up the pail. "Now," he said, "the milking's done, supper's over and the dishes washed. Now what do you want?" YAKIMA Compliments at RELIABLE CAB CO. ALL CABS ARE METERED Dispatched by Radio PIIONE 4633 or 3197 6 North 1st Street NUNAMAKER ELECTRIC CO. Dealers Onan Generators & Deice Motors 1010 W. Lenox Ave. Phone 22647 H. E. NUNAMAKER and L. E. VANNICE Seaso' s Greetings SIMON'S FURNITURE COMPANY. hlterlor Decorators Complete Heine Furxdshers 25 NORTH 3rd STREET PHONE 4153 x HANSES PACKING COo Fresh and Cured bleats DAILY INSPECTED IAIR & SON All Aluminum Truck Bodies ALL TYPES SHEET ALI.MINUM & ALUMINUM EXTRUSIONS UNION GAP DIAL 24489 Sincere Greelbgs to My Many Friends GARDNER OIL COMPANY Wholesale Distributors STEPHEN GARDNER PHONm 4377 LONE PINE ROOFING AND PAVING CO. 1502 So. 1st St. Phone 9086 AppUcatort of Composition S,ingles, Rolled Rooting, Built-Up Roofs or Moterlal Sold Separately. Experienced Applicotors ASPHALTIC CONCRETE WORK Roadways - Driveways Parking Areas and Tennis Courts Season's Greetbgs J. O. HUGHES Hop Broker Liberty Bldg., Yaklma Phone 2-2966 ' CHRISTMAS GREETINGS GRIFFITH & SON BROKERAGE CO. " P. 0. Box 511 Phone 8354 JtItN GRIFFITH - GLEN GRIFFITE[ We Buy Fresh Fruits and Vegetablel SEASON'S GREETINGS ROYAL CAB COMPANY- MR. PHILIPS 22,. South 2nd St. Phone 7300 ROSS DENT INSURANCE AGENCY, INC. Representing the GENERAL INSURANCE COMPANY OF AMERICA GENERAL CASUALTY COMPANY OF AMERICA Fire Insuranc with Savings Washington Fire and Casualty Companies 904 LARSON BUILDING PHONE 8ffl O : e T_# CATHOLIC NORTHWEST PROGRESS Pa" o',,t Sixty-Three You a Good Conversationalist? By HELEN GREGG GREEN Do you believe it impor*Ant to b a good conversationalist or do you follow the lines o[' least recJstance, giving little thought to this sub- ject? We inust 1 talk! If you are in doubt as to your ability, take the test in this article and discover the answer for yourself, *'Conversation aims at enter,'ainment w/'.;ch subt- ly enliqhtens."--John Er:,ae. F the lost arts conversation heads the ltst. As a matter (tO "light re- scorch" may I suggest the next time you are in the corpany of cultivated men and women you study their conversa- tions? In all probability you will discover rule after rule broken or disregarded by at leant one or nit)re persons of the group. In conversation the speaker holds t- tention not by raising his voice but by te value of what he says and the are r(sHag way in which it is saitl. Good conversation is posibe only with these who show r;2'::!nt, as well as era, sider- alien for the li-kcner. I have a friend who belongs to a small dinner club. She tells of one member who conspicuously ruins every converzat!on begun by thoughtful, well-informed men and women. He has acquired the habit of Interrupting guests, drowning out thought-provoRing discussion by the simple expedient of talking louder than any one else. Common courtesy and di[)iomacy de- mand reciprocity in conversation. Ac- cording to "the rules" you say' a few well-ch0sl sentences; it is then anotlier's "turn" and so on! No one slmuld' m.onop- eli:..., or interrupt; ths.t eactf speaker has a gracious, receptive audience ,is impera- tive if conversation is to be stimulating, entertaining and enjoyable. It should never deteriorate into a heavy-handed de.- bate! A bit of sparkle is a must! Among thoughtful persons the speaker hands over the conversation to someone else by looking at him and assuming the listener's attitude. Frequently this gra- cious way of giving another the floor, so to speak, is overlooked. In many ino mgances several others are waiting' to grab the opening: as if it were a treasure no one else must enjoy. Often the de- liberate speaker who hesitates loses his opportunity to enter the conversation. I have a friend who is an avid reader, (even the librarians in his city call him "one of our best readers"); he is also a clever racounteur, but he has a habit of occasionally hesitating in the middle of sentences. Kindness should tell his listeners to respect this idiosyncrasy, (and his wife should tell him in private to overcolne it, which she does!) and permit him this pause, for he is worth lisgening to. Invariably, however, some- one interrupts with an irrelevant remark which interests no one but the speaker. Then there is the pe.rson who mono-" polizes all conversations. Recently my husband and I spent an evening with two of our friends. I averaged a half dozen brief sentences and my husband less. ,It was practically a monologue on the part of each of our friends regarding a subject dear to their hearts. They are an intelligent, otherwise charming couple. 'hen the evening was over I had the feeling our LQ.'s were a possible 80. Much as we like and admire these friends I am glad more time is not spent in their presence. I agree with Channing Pollock in "Harvest of My Years" when he writes, "My friends must do some- thing for me?" Monopolizing a conversation, which Is always possible in a'small group; seems to be a habit that has grown rather than diminished through the years. True artists keep good talk in the open, discussing that in which all are interest- ed, This skill makes for conversation that Is stimulating, enlightening and enjoy- able. Sometimes a single clever remark is more memorable than a half dozen sen- tences involving deeper trends. I recently attended a dinner party where there were a number of distin- guished guests. The conversation had been going smoothly but rather heavy-handed- ly. In a lull one of the lovely women present, the mother of four small children, turned to her dinner partner and smiled, 2 3 6 7 8 9 10 I1 "t 12 i HERE'S THE TEST Do you feel a responsibility, either as host or guest, to as- sure every member of the company a just share in the oon- versation? ' 10 / Do you show restraint, remembering good talk depends upon self-discipline and oonsideration of others for its success? 10 Are you cognizant of the important rule the speaker holds attention by what he says and the way he says it, not by raising his voice? 10 Do you remember to leave the conversation in as interest- ing a condition as when you took it over? 10 Since listening is an art in itself, do you cultivate this ;ra- claus habit; avoiding the holding-your-peace attitude until ,you can leap on the topic being discussed? 10 Are you aware the cultivated person passes on the oonver- sation to some one else by looking at the next speaker and taking on the listener's attitude? 8 Do you realize it is tiresomely selfish to hold the floor overly long? 10 Do you make an effort to do your share of the talking, no more, no less? 10 Are you able to talk well on at least one interesting sub- ject? 10 Do you remember conversation must be kept stimuLating to all concerned? 8 Are subjects avoided by you which might be painful,hurtful or embarrassing to any one else present? 10 Do you make an effort to talk interestingly and in;eelligently, avoiding clumsy chatter? 10 "'If they'd talk about Peter Rabbit I could get in on the conversation!" The guest rapesteal the witty remark and everyone laughed, happy over the light trend the conversation had taken. Dr. Frank Crane once wrote if he were to live his life over again he would learn to talk small talk well. Undoubtedly many people lack social grace; and have no particular desire to learn. I belong to Dr. Crane's school of thought: small talk can be delightful ! At this point you may be Wondering what kind of conversationalist you are? Follow this test, grade yourself and dis, cover your failings and assets! If your grade is 100 you are to be congratulated; if 60 you are a middle-of-the-road person; if below 60, you need to work on those weak spots. A bill collector found a bachelor farmer milking his one cow. "I'll be through in a minute," he grunted. He finished his milking, lifted the pail to his mouth, drank deeply, poured the remaining milk on the ground, and hung up the pail. "Now," he said, "the milking's done, supper's over and the dishes washed. Now what do you want?" YAKIMA Compliments at RELIABLE CAB CO. ALL CABS ARE METERED Dispatched by Radio PIIONE 4633 or 3197 6 North 1st Street NUNAMAKER ELECTRIC CO. Dealers Onan Generators & Deice Motors 1010 W. Lenox Ave. Phone 22647 H. E. NUNAMAKER and L. E. VANNICE Seaso' s Greetings SIMON'S FURNITURE COMPANY. hlterlor Decorators Complete Heine Furxdshers 25 NORTH 3rd STREET PHONE 4153 x HANSES PACKING COo Fresh and Cured bleats DAILY INSPECTED IAIR & SON All Aluminum Truck Bodies ALL TYPES SHEET ALI.MINUM & ALUMINUM EXTRUSIONS UNION GAP DIAL 24489 Sincere Greelbgs to My Many Friends GARDNER OIL COMPANY Wholesale Distributors STEPHEN GARDNER PHONm 4377 LONE PINE ROOFING AND PAVING CO. 1502 So. 1st St. Phone 9086 AppUcatort of Composition S,ingles, Rolled Rooting, Built-Up Roofs or Moterlal Sold Separately. Experienced Applicotors ASPHALTIC CONCRETE WORK Roadways - Driveways Parking Areas and Tennis Courts Season's Greetbgs J. O. HUGHES Hop Broker Liberty Bldg., Yaklma Phone 2-2966 ' CHRISTMAS GREETINGS GRIFFITH & SON BROKERAGE CO. " P. 0. Box 511 Phone 8354 JtItN GRIFFITH - GLEN GRIFFITE[ We Buy Fresh Fruits and Vegetablel SEASON'S GREETINGS ROYAL CAB COMPANY- MR. PHILIPS 22,. South 2nd St. Phone 7300 ROSS DENT INSURANCE AGENCY, INC. Representing the GENERAL INSURANCE COMPANY OF AMERICA GENERAL CASUALTY COMPANY OF AMERICA Fire Insuranc with Savings Washington Fire and Casualty Companies 904 LARSON BUILDING PHONE 8ffl