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@@o G-00lI00v------0000utter,V%latter Of Crowds &apos;, "'"'" Spouses Must Talk UR MODERN world has become ciapally aided.' The Vicar of Christ does not %J aclutter and clatter of crowds, reeeive alms until each of you is touched by OV Fut e P1 Thi column is addressed to a crowd, this column, in cooperation with the grace of namely, the Catholics of the United States. But God, and responds daily to his appeal, er ur ans it also appeals for crowds, namely, the more By Fafher John !.. Thomas, $.J. About Teaching By JOHN J. ECKHART he living fact that the likes of me were al- lowed to graduate from grade school with a complete skin is a sure mark of the monumental patience, forti- tude, and iron steady nerves the Dominican Sisters who taught at Holy Rosary in West Seattle. Surely there can be few vo- cations that can match that of the teaching Sister for taint- less pursuit of hard work and constant combat. 'I have heard all of the claims for "training young minds," and the joy of "sat- is[action in teaching the youth," and all of them are true to the last jot, but the Continuous process of facing 30 to 40 youngsters every day is heroic virtue of celestial proportions. It is for this reason that I knew I had no business at all in reviewing or attempting to review the following book. In- stead, we are privileged to have this review from one of those academic gladiators of Christ, a" teaching Sister of the Holy Names, Sister Francesca Maria, S.N.J.M.: SPIRITUALITY OF THE preface, to assist the teaching Sister in her "religious-aca- demic life," and he feels, moreover, that "the modern presentation ought to seek a clear awareness of, and estab- lish safety trails for, the rug- ged terrain of the heights of sanctity in terms of the 'flesh and blood individual who is here and now facing concrete trials; trials factually detailed from the academic tasks of the religious communities in the soul-searching 'sixties.' " With these convictions in mind, Father Kenriek makes a new and refreshing ap- proach to fundamentals which never grow old. He rightly treats humility, fortitude, faith, poverty, and Christian individualism in the daily life of a teaching Sister. The topics mentioned are among those considered in the three parts into which the book is divided: 1) The Path of Religious Life. 2) The Shadows of the World. 3) The Help and Hope of Heaven. The spirituality of the teach- ing Sister will prove how the Sister has "deliberately devel- oped a deep, strong love of Sisters pleasure. Each chapter is writ- ten with vigor and insight; many deserve careful perusal. -.SISTER FRANCESCA MA- RIA. A SYNTHESIS OF THE SPIRITUAL LIFE, by Dora Wulstan Mork, O.S.B. 283 pp. The Bruce Publishing Com- pany. $3.75. LTHOUGH this book was written as a textbook for novices and postulants in the Benedictine Order, it is a concise and com- prehensive "do it yourself" handbook of spiritual, life that should be useful to the layman. The 32 short chapters make no effort to talk down to the reader nor does the author need to lose himself in ab- struse problems of theology. The book begins with a se- ries of short chapters on the life of God, the end and re- vealed happiness, of man and his sharing in the life of God. Three chapters deal with the life of Christ, the infused vir- tues, prayer, and finally a chapter each on the moral vir- tues, the gifts of the Holy than 200,000 missionaries in Africa and Asia, where one-half the population of the earth is jostled together. The problem in dealing with crowds is reaching the individual within them, such as the individual American Catholic, that he may deny himself daily for the sake of the Church throughout the world; or the individual Asiatic or African, that he may listen to the Gospel. Our Blessed Lord Himself was crushed and iammed in teeming and turbulent crowds, as when Peter said to Him: "The multitudes are hemming Thee in and crowding upon Thee." The original Greek seems to suggest that Our Blessed Lord was almost held a prisoner by those crowds. It was at that moment that Our Divine Lord showed how valueless are crowds in comparison with a single human being, as He singled out a woman who had reached for a tussle that hung from His robe. So, too, must every in- dividual stretch out his hand and touch Our Lord for himself, if he would know all of the Divine energies that run from His Life into ours. The crowd must fade away, and for a luminous moment there must remain only two--the soul and Our Lord. That is what our missionaries must even- tually do--induce everyone to touch the hem of the garment of God. That is what we have to do, we, directors, of the Holy Father's own Society for the Propagation of the Faith. It does no good to tell you in general that the Holy Father asks that he be "first and prin- There will be millions who will not in- dividualize themselves by respondingto this appeal of the Holy Father. But to the few who do, Our Lord will turn and say: "Some- body has touched Me. I can tell that power has gone out from Me." You may be one in a million, but you will be one in a million with the blessing of Godt GOD LOVE YOU to M.C.B. /or $50. "When I retired /ram my job, my /allow workers presented me with $50. I want the missions to have it" . . . to ].E.L. /or $10. "I promised I would send $I0 to the missions i,/ I received a di- ploma. I certainly never would have gotten it, without the help o/ the Holy Spirit." . . . to R. and E. for $50. "'Please accept this o//ering o/ part o our wed- ding money in thanksgiving /or our hap- piness. Now the poor o the world may share our material blessings." "Mission" combines the best features of all other magazines: stories, pictures, statistics and details, human interest. Take an interest in the suffering humanity of the mission world and send your sacrifices along with a request to be put on the mailing list of this bi-monthly publication. Cut out this column, pin your sacrifice to it and mail it to Most Rev. Fulton $. Sheen, National Director of the Society for the Propa- gation of the Faith, 366 5th Avenue, New York 1, N.Y., or your Archdiocesan Director, Rev. Stephen Szeman, 907 Terry Avenue, Seattle 4. IIEADLINES AND DEADLINES: TEACHING SISTER, Christ and forged her dedica- Ghost, andprayer, recollection Continues Same Pattern Reverend Edward tion of self to the salvation of and reading. News by F. Kenrick, B. Herder the souls of others." Each chapter is concluded Book Co., 243 pp. $4.50. "From dawn to dusk in in- with a list of individual prac- (Continued from Page 1) Recently he has been sess- have nothing like inspection or spiration and perspiration we tices enabling the reader to ing "provocative activity' of control of any kind. THE relationship be- tween basic principles form the whole Christ; and live according to the peda- tions of any kind would be un- of the spiritual progress the by.product--we become dertaken with him. the West, no doubt encouraged of a Sister and her profession- Christlike." al life as a teacher are stressed Religious, young and old, in this book. teachers and those engaged in Too little has been written, any other form of work could says Father Kendrick in the read this book with profit and L Feature Films On Television Bellingham KING-TV (NBC) Channel 5 KVOS-TV Channel 12 KIRO-TV (CBS) Channel 7 Tacoma Seattle KTNT-TV (CBS) Channel 11 KOMO-TV (ABC) Channel 4 KTVW-TV Channel 13 MOTION PICTURE CLASSIFICATION BY NATIONAL LEGION OF DECENCY: A.1--Morally Unobiectionable for General Patronage; A-II--Morally Unobiectionable for Adults and Adolescents; A-III--Morally unobiectionable for Adults; B--Morally Objectionable in Part for All; C-Condemned; SC--Separate Classification; NR--No Rating Available. (Note: The ratings listed below were those given the original movies. Most films before being shown on tele- vision are edited to conform to the television code and to the individual station's time schedule. For this reason, objectionable parts contained in the original plot may be deleted in the television version and thus the original Legion rating may not be entirely correct.) SATURDAY, JULY 21 2:30 p.m.KOMO-TV--Bombay Mail ............. NR 2:30 p.m.--KING-TV--Fast and Loose ........... A-IT 4:00 p.m.--KT, VW-TV--Come On Danger ..... .. ...... A-I 4:30 p.m.--KOMO-TVThe Mlllerson case ............. A-It 5:30 p.m.---KTVW.TV--Forty Naughty Girls ............. A-II 8:05 p.m.--KTVW-TV---Saint's Vacation .................. AI 9:00 p.m.--KING-TV--Monkey Business .................. 11:00 pan.--KIRO-TV--Union Pacific .............. A-I 11:00 p.m.--KTNT-TV--Stranger on the Prowl ........... A-II 11:00 'p.m.--KVOS-TV--Human Desire ................. 11:15 p.m.--KOMO-TV--The Secret Garden ............ A-I SUNDAY, JULY 22 ]:30 p.m.--KVOS-TV--Little Kidnappers .............. A-II 2:00 p.m,--KING-TV--Llttle Women ................ A-I 2:30 p.m.KIRO-TV--Typhoon ...... : .... ... : ..... , ..... A:II 4:00 p.m.--KOMO-TV--A Feather in er at ..........  4:30 p,m.--KTVW-TV--Maid's Night Out ............... A-I 5:45 p.m.KTVW-TV--Tender Comrade .......... A-II 6:00 p.m.--KVOS-TV--Bomba, Lord of the Jungle ...... NR 8:80 p.m.--KOMO-TVPork Chop Hill ................ A-I 11:15 p.m.KOMO-TV--Illegal .............. A-If 11:35 p.m.KING-TVHouse of Menace .NR MONDAY, JULY 23 9:80 a.m.KOMO-TVBlonde Crazy NR 10:00 a.m.--KTVW-TV--Muslc for Madame .............. A-I 11:30 a.m.--KIRO-TV--West Point Widow ............ A-II 1:30 p.m.--KTVW-TVLove on a Bet ......... A-I 3:30 p.m.KING-TVThose Redheads from Seattle .... A-II 5:30 p.m.KVOS-TV---Caribbean ...... A-II 6:00 p.m.KTVW-TV--Flving Leathernecks ..... A-I 8:30 p.rn.--LKTNT-TV--Torchy Play with Dynamite . .A-I 10:00 p.m.--KTVW-TV--Hunchback of Notre Dame .... A-II 11:00 p.m.--KTNT-TV--A Child Is Born ......... A-II I ] 11:00 p.m.--KVOS-TV--Maltese Falcon ........ A-II 11:30 p.m.--KOMO-TV--The Underpup ....... NR 11:30 p.m.--KIRO-TVKltty TUESDAY. JULY'24 ....... B 9:80 a.m.--KOMO-TV--When Love Is Young .A-I 10:00 a.m.--KTVW-TV--Falcon Strikes Back .... A-II 11:30 a.m.--KIRO-TVFrom Hell to Heaven NR 1:30 p.m.--KTVW-TV--Beauty for the Asking " '.  .A-II S:S0 p.m.KING-TV--AbUot and Costello in Hollywood A-I 5:30 p.m.KVOS-TV--Dangerous Mission ..... A-I 6:00 p.m.--KTVW-TVFlying Leathernecks ....... A-1 10:00 p.m.--KTVW-TV--Condemned Women .......... A-II 11:00 p.m.KTNT-TVLulu Belle ............ B 11:00 p.m.--KVOS-TV---Slster Kenny ...... A-I 11:30 p.m.--KOMO.TV--Harmon of Michigan ...... A-I Gentleman From Nowhere .... .A-II I 11:30 p.m.--KIRO-TV--The Surgeon's Knife ........ NR WEDNESDAY, JULY 25 9:30 a.m.KOMO-TV--Lone Wolf Meets a Lady ....... A-II 10:00 a.m.KTVW-TV--Curse of the Cat People ..... A-II 11:30 a.m.--KIRO-TV--F Man ........... A-I 1:30 p.m.--KTVW-TV---Crime Ring ......... A-II 3:30 p.m.KING-TVBeginning or the End (Part 1) .... A-I S:30 p.rn.--KVOS.TV--Hlgh Sierra ...... . . .B 6:00 p.m.--KTVW.TVFlying Leathernecks ........... A-I 10:00 p.m.KTVW-TV--Dangerous Moonlight ........... NR 11:00 p.m.--KTNT-TVIf I'm Lucky ................. A-I 11:00 p.m.KVOS-TVThe Strange One ................ B 11:30 p.m.--KOMO-TVTrlal Without Jury .............. A-II Tarnished .............. A-II 11:80 p.m.--KIRO.TVNew Faces ............ B THURSDAY. JULY 26 9:30 a.m.--KOMO-TV--Atlantic Adventure ....... A-I 10:00 a.m.KTVW-TV--Millionaires In Prison ...... A-II 11:80 a.m.KIRO-TVKIn of Chinatown ..... A-II 1:80 p.m.KTVW--TV--N-ext Time I Marry ..... A-II 3:80 p.m.KING-TVBeglnnlng or the End (Part II) A-I 5:30 p.m.--KVOS-TV--The Half Breed ....... B 6:00 pm,--KTVW-TVFlylng Leathernecks .............. A-I 10:00 p.m.KTVW-TV--Muss 'Era Up ............... A-II 11:00 p.m.--KTNT-TV--Bond Street ................ B 11:00 p.m.KVOS-TY--Pursued ............. A-II 11:30 p.m.--KOMO-TV--The Mayor of Hell ....... NR 11:80 p.m.--KIRO-TV--Orient Express ........ NR FRIDAY. JULY 2"/ 9:30 a.m.KOMO-TV--Flred Wife ................... B 10:00 a.m.--KTVV-TVPop Ahvays Pays ................. A-I 11:80 a.m.KIRO.TV--Emergency Squad .............. , .A-I 1:$0 p.m.--KTVW-TVPeach -O- Reno ............ NR 8:30 p.m.KING-TVAge of Indiscretion ......... NR 5:80 p.m.--KVOS-TV--Fallen Sparrow ....... A-II 6:00 p.m.--KTVW-TV--Flylng Leathernecks ...... A-I 10:00 p.m.--KTVW-TVAnn of Winder Poplars ...... A:I 11:00 p.m.--KTNT.TVMy Darltn" t:ementlne . . , a-n 11:00 p,m.--KVOS-TV--Run for Cover ....... B 11:30 p,m.KOMO-TV--Mr. 880 ......... A-I 11:30 p.m.KIRO-TV--Disputed Passage ......... A-I This Review Is Sponsored by Catholic Gifts & Church Goods, Inc. Rel;qlous qoodt for the home, church sad school. A ateasant shoapinO atmosphere with a select vari- ety of religious qifts. 607 Union SL, Seaffie I MUtual 2-3929 gogal truths set forth. We recommend this book for the style and the natural way in which the author covers the well-known paths of spiritual fife with a minimum of com- monplaces, with a fresh ap- proach and with an eye to- ward maintaining reader in- terest.--J. $. E. 'Alcoholism' Subject Of 'Challenge' "Alcoholism" will be probed by the panel of "Challenge" on KOMO-TV, Channel 4, Sun- day, July 22 at {; p.m. This fourth most serious health problem in the U.S. affecting the lives of six mil- lion people will be discussed by Rev, William Treacy, Rabbi Raphael Levine and Dr. Mar- tin Goslin. The role of the clergy in preventing alcohol- ism and rehabilitating those addicted will be examined by the religious spokesmen. If Khrushchev became con- vinced that the West meant business by standing firm and that it would no longer make concessions or offer compro- mises, he would soon rethink his position and refrain from making false accusations. Irresponsible Talk As it is, Khrushchev contin. ues to attack. He formally declared in his note of June 7 that the West was responsible for shootings and kidnappings and that con- ditions could only be made nor- mal on the basis of a German peace settlement, not the re- unification of Germany accord- ing to the Four-Power pact to which the Soviet Union sub- scribed. Nothing is being said about this important issue any longer Instead, Khrushchev continues to call attention to what he calls "provocation perpetrated against the Ger- man Democratic Republic by the West German police and fascist elements from West Berlin, which cause a serious aggravation of the situation in this area." New Religious 'Faith For A Series Begins Year' On St. On KOMO.TV Francis Hour "Faith for a Year" is the "Insight," a 13-week series of dramatic and documentary com- mentaries on the role of faith and freedom in democratic life will be televised over KOMO- "IV, Channel 4, beginning Suu- day, July 22, at 11 a.m. The show is created by a Paulist priest, Rev. Ellwood Kieser, and producer Joe Con- nelly and will star such talents as Raymond Massey, !vane Dunne, Jane Wyman, Everett Sloane, Macdonald Covey, Bob Newhart, Hans Conreid, Ann Blyth, Victor Jory, Paul Pie- erni and others. The first show this Sunday features Bob Newhart and Kath- ryn Crosby, authors Otis Car- ney and Morris West and a segment portraying Eduardo Ciannelli as the demented Nineteenth Century philosopher Nietzsche, whose w r i t i n g s strongly influenced Hitler and Nazi Germany. Sacred Heart TV Talks Set Sunday The Rev. Francis L. Filas, S.J., chairman of the theology department of Loyola Univer- sity, Chicago, will speak on the Book of Job on the Sacred Heart program to be seen on KTVW-TV, Channel 13, Sun- day, July 22, at 7:15 p.m. The title of the program is "Fruitful Suffering." The same day at 9:15 a.m. on KIRO-TV, Channel 7, Rev. Thomas W. Curry, S.J., profes- sor of Rockhurst High School in Kansas City, will stress the most distinctive quality of Christ's friendship for man, His forgiveness. The title of the talk is "Come, Meet My Friend," play on Hour of St. Francis for Sunday, July 22, at 8:45 p.m. on Radio KXA and in Everett on Radio KWYZ at 7:45 a.m. A contented young man with a good position and a beauti- ful wife sees his life begin to crumble as drinking gets the better of him. He make a val- iant struggle to break this hab- it but in a tragic scene admits to his wife that he is licked. Paulist Priest To Speak On 'Catholic Hour' During the four Sundays of August, the well-known Paul- ist priest Rev. John C. Rey- nolds will be guest speaker on the "Catholic Hour" radio pro- gram which is heard every Sunday morning at 7:30 a.m. on Radio-KING. Taking as his theme the Scriptural text "That Your Joy May Be Full," Father Rey- nolds examines four requisites for the full Christian life in his talks. The first, August 5, will be "Having a Purpose in Life." Rosary Said On KTVW.TV Every Sunday Between 9 and 9:30 p.m. every Sunday night, KTVW.TV, Channel 13, Tacoma, presents "The Rosary" following the final movie. This filmed program of the recitation of the Rosary is high- lighted by slides of the five Glorious Mysteries, and back- ground music of the "Ave Maria" and other sacred hymns to the Blessed Mother. by U.S. policy of never saying or doing anything to offend the Soviets. In a talk to 14 U.S. news. paper editors visiting Moscow this week, he asserted that the Berlin problem was "the key issue in the present interna- tional situation," yet he de- clines to discuss the matter with the West. Furthermore, he told the newsmen that there will be another series of nuclear tests by the Soviet Union unless the U.S. ceases its testing immediately and agrees to a disarmament agreement, So- viet pattern of course. Thereupon, he boasted that the Soviets had a perfected anti-missile missile and im- plied that the Soviet Union was practically invincible. Then he gave his meaning of the policy of peaceful coexist- ence. "You take from us every- thing you regard as good, and we shall take from you every- thing good that you have." Well, he can say that again, because we have been thinking all along that's what it meant. Disarm Confab Once again the merry-go- round is gyrating at Geneva where the 18-member disarma- ment conference got under way Monday. Actually, there are only 17 nations represented, because De Gaulle still sees no point in running to the Soviets so they can insult him. This was the 57th meeting since March 14, when the So- viets proposed their three-phase program. The first phase prom- ised for the abolition of all nu- clear weapons and dismantling all foreign bases in Europe. On April 18, the U. S. also presented a three-stage plan for general and complete dis- armament It was substan- tlally the same as that of- fered by the Soviets, except that it provided for gradual disarmament over a period of nine years, and incorporated an international inspection and control system. This has proved a stumbling block because the Soviets will Legion Of Decency First-Run Movies Showing In Seattle A-I--Road to Hong Kong, Bon Voyage, El Cid. A-II--My Geisha. Other Movies Currently Showing A-I--Wings of Eagles, Hired Gun, Mouse That Roared, David and Goliath, Man Who Wagged His Tail. A-II--Judgment at Nurem-. berg, Please Don't Eat the Daisies, Hell Is for Heroes, Naked E'dge, Brainwashed, State Fair, Escape From Zab- rain. A-III--Counterfeit T r a i t o r, West Side Story, Spartacus, Roman Spring of Mrs Stone, Rome Adventure. B--Journey to the Seventh Planet, That Touch of MinL Puzzlement Although the Administration this week emphasized that there would be no retreat from its position demanding an interna- tional control system to moni- tor atomic testing and enforce moratoriums, there have been other official statements that cause one to wonder if some compromise is not being con- templated. U. S. negotiator Arthur H. Dean, for example, said Satur- day that recent advances in detection might make it pos- sible to accept the Soviets' plan for control systems regulated by each nation autonomously. Secretary Rusk was quoted as having given an offhand "per- haps" when asked if an easing of U. S. demands on this issue might be considered. At deadline, no developments have been reported outside the u s u a 1 S o v i e t intransigence against accepting anything but their own version of disarma- ment. Much was made of Soviet Deputy Foreign Minister Va- lerian Zorin's "act of good- will" by ostensibly moving to- ward the West when the con- feronce resumed Monday. He was said to have accepted two of the West's suggestions, but on closer analysis, it was seen that he had not moved at all. He merely accepted a pro- posal for exchange of military missions and installation of a "rapid and reliable communi- cation," or what might be called a "hot" wire, among heads of governments to pre- vent unintended triggering of a nuclear war. That doesn't look much like a Soviet concession or. as Zorin stated it, meeting the U. S. "half way." We hope the U. S, delega- tion does not indulge too freely in accommodation with the Soviets at Geneva.  ,- -_-_--- - ._-_- _ PRAYER TO ST. JUDE To be said in great affliction, or when one seems to be de- wived of all visible help, or for cases despaired of "Most holy apostle St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the name of the traitor who delivered thy beloved Mas. ter into the hands of His ene- mies has caused thee to be for- gotten by many, but the Church honors and invokes thee uni- versally, as the patron of hope- le cases, of things despaired of. Pray for me who am so mis- erable; make use I implore thee, of that particular privilege ac- corded of thee, to bring visible and speedy help where help is most despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need that I may receive the consola- tions and succor of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations a n d sufferings, particularly (Here make your request) and that I may Bless God with thee and all the elect forever. I promise thee, O Blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, and I will never cease to honor thee as my special and powei'ful p a t r o n and to do all in my power to encourage devotion to thee, 2Linen" (To encourage devotion to St. Jude, distribute this p r a y r or acknoyvledge in writing favors received, etc) National Shrine of St. Jude Clareflan Fathers 221 West Madison Street Jessica, It Started With a Kiss Chkugo 6, III. Condemned--Five Day Lover. -:-::-:x * Professor of Sociology at St. Louis University Shouldn't a husband talk over plans with his wife first before including others? We've been married almost a year. l'm 26; he's 31. I've just learned that he's invited his parents and sister to go with us on vacation. Shouldn't he have discussed this with me first? On similar occa- sions I've asked him to talk thizgs over with me first, but he just blows up and I have to give in. How should a wife handle thisproblem? LTHOUGH you probably feel that your problem is unique, you've described a rather common source of tension in early marriages. Strangely enough one of the most difficult lessons that young couples must learn is that marriage means partnership. They may readily acknowledge that marriage makes them "two in one," but they're less likely to agree on who is to be the "one." Of course this is the wrong way to state the problem, for unity in marriage, since it involves two equal human persons, must re- sult in a "we," not a "one." There are several reasons why couples may find it difficult to adjust to the practical impli- cations of marital partnership. In the first place they may not agree on what these prac- tical implications are. The roles of husband and wife are not clearly defined in our society. FR. THOMAS Various national groups still retain some ele- ments of their traditional views, while recent changes in the status of women sharply challenge all past defi- nitions. Americans may still feel that a man should be head of his family, yet there is little agreement concerning what this means in practice. Another source of difficulty stems from the fact that up until marriage men and women are accustomed to plan and make decisions primarily in terms of their own needs and desires. Many find it difficult to Shift the focus of their concern from themselves to a couple-centered basis. They continue to think and act as if their trip to the altar was a solo and their new partnership merely a convenient ar- rangement to satisfy their personal needs. Such thoughtless self-centeredness is characteristic of adolescence but unfortunately, all too many parmers never develop beyond this stage. A further source of difficulty in early marriage may be the influence of in-laws. Marriage necessarily involves a weaning process in which the parmers must learn to shift their primary loyalties and emotional attachments from their families of origin to the new unit they are in the process of initiating. Some husband and wives continue to orient their lives around their respective families instead of making their partnership the focal point around which all other relationships must revolve. Troubles From Several Sources UDGING from your description of the problem, it seems likely that your husband's difficulties stem from several sources. He apparently assumes that as head of the family he has the right to make all decisions without consulting his wife. Since this pattern was more or less common among some national groups, he may only be imitating his father in this re- gard. On the other hand, his one-sided approach may also result from thoughtless self-centeredness or over-attachment to his family. How do you handle the situation? Well, it won't be easy, since he has managed to get by with it for some time. Hence, your first step will be to tell him calml, but firmly that you will not abide by such decisions in the future. Either he first consults you in making decisions concerning matters related to your mutual interests, or you will reject his decisions. Second. if he "blows up," as he has done in the past, you must show him that you mean business by standing firm. This implies that you have thought the problem through carefully and are firmlv convinced that you must take this position if your marriage is to work. Follow-Through IS Needed IN OTHER WORDS, don't threaten to take a stand, or don't take a stand, unless you are thoroughly convinced that, come what may, you are going to see it through. This last point is very important. It will do no good to threaten, prote, or make a scene if you are not resolved to maintain your position at all costs. Hence you must be prepared to face some temporary unpleasantness, but you must wait him out. Once he learns that his favorite technique of "blowing up" no longer works, he may be ready to give the problem some serious thought. If you know a good counsellor, this is the time to go to him as a couple. Should this prove impossible, start out by clarifying the real source of your disagreements. I think you will find that the mere attempt to define your differences will prove highly beneficial. If he has been ignoring your rights out of  mere thoughtless- ness or selfishness, such discussion may open his eyes. If he rejects your rights on principle, he will learn from your firm stand that he must redefine the situation. Above all, be convinced that you will succeed only if you are firm. It may be difficult for a time but remember, your whole future is at stake. - / :i : " " . WELCOME Fishermen and Tourists Fishing is in full sway on the lakes behd :Ross, Diablo and Gorge Dams. Your City Light wolcoms_ * you to thee scenic lakes for a fishing trip you will long remember. Tourists also can enjoy the beauty of this wild, rugged country. Reservations are still, available for City . . Light's "one-day mountain vacation," the famous = < Skagit Tours. For information or reservations, call City Light Skagit Tours, MAin 3.7600, Ext. 121. Sportsmen and tourists alike are welcome to enjoy this scenic recreational area - an important by-product of Seattle City Light's power producing Sk.agit Hydro- electric Project. 00E600SEATTLE CITY LIGHT : / /