6--THE PROGRESS Friday, Feb. 21, 1964
1
Aura of Mystery Cloaks
Crucifix Relic at Milton
By PAT WINKLER
Assistant City Editor,
Tacoma News-Tribune
M I L T O N (Special to
The Progress) -- An aura
of mystery cloaks a cen-
turies-old plaster crucifix
hanging in the W. J. Shar-
ick home here.
A family treasure, the cruci-
fix was found in the ruins of
a church, apparently near Je-
mez, N.M., by Sharick's grand-
father in 1870, but neither the
origin of the crucifix nor its
exact age is known.
A small sheet of tattered pa-
per attached to the cross states:
"Found in the ruins of Jemez
Church."
Another piece of paper at-
tached to the Christ figure
reads: "This was carried by
the 'Penitentes' . . . (illeg-
ible) this cross during a per-
iod of I00 years. Albuquerque,
New Mexico."
The Sharick family also pos-
sesses an old paper, the Mon-
roe's Iron-Clad,Age, an Indian-
apolis newspaper, dated Feb.
12, 1887, that carries a story
about the discovery of the cru-
cifix. Grandfather Sharick was
on an expedition into "Big
Horn" Country with a group of
men at: the time.
The Age prefaces the narra-
tive: "The following interest-
ing narrative of one' of Albu-
querque's prominent business
men, I. J. Sharick, who dared
to venture on the hazardous
expedition at a time the Sioux
were never more hostile."
The article continues: "The
believers in Jesus Christ will
find at I. J. Sharick's the
THE STORY behind this ancient crucifix found in the
ruins of a New Mexico church puzzles W. J. Sharick of
Tacoma and his family.
Jeweler in Albuquerque, a
veritable relic recovered from
the Jernes (apparently Je-
mez) ehureh ruins, Christ on
the eross, known to date back
to 1659. As the church in
ruins is prehistoric, it is like-
ly to be four centuries old.
The reliet (the Age's spelling)
is as veritable an image as
can be seen."
In 1889 Grandfather Sharick
moved to Tacoma and later to
Name, Alaska. He brought the
crucifix. And today the cruel-
fix remains in the hands of his
grandson, W. J. Sharick.
The grandson has had of-
fers for the relic, but, he
notes, "You just can't put a
price on something like that."
Mrs. Sharick said the family
plans to keep the crucifix. Fas-
cinated by antiques, she said
she plans to write to New Mexi-
co in an attempt to determine
the origin and age. The crucifix
may have been brought into
the Southwest by the Spaniards
and placed in a mission.
Nuns Remember Enthusiasm
Of Nation's 'Star Boarder'
SAN ANTONIO (N.C.)
A good student enthusi-
astic about school activi-
ties is the way the "na-
tion's star boarder" is
remembered at Incarnate Word
High school.
This is the description given
by teachers of 19-year-old War-
rie Lynn Smith who has gone
to Washington to live at the
White House with her close
friend, Lynda Bird Jonhson,
daughter of the President.
"She was more than a good,
loyal student. When she volun-
teered for a school fictivity, she
did it with enthusiasm. She
was dedicated to her school,"
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to the individual station's time schedule. For this reason,
objectionable parts contained in the original plot may be
aeteted in the television verston and thus the originat
Legion rating may not be entirely correct.)
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 2l
1:30 ).m.--KVOS-TV--Falcon Out West ................................ A-II
2:30 ).m.--KIRO-TV--Blue Dahlia ...................................... A-11
4:00 Lm.--KIRO-TVNot of This Earth ................................ A-l|
I:30 =.m.--KTVW-TVWlse Glrl ........................................ A-I
9:00 ).m.lKING-TV--Story of Three Loves .......................... A-II
10:00 ).m.KTNT-TV--House of Frankenstein ............................. L,
lt:00 ).m.KVOS-TV3:10 to Yuma ................................... A.II
11:00 Lm.KtRO-TVThe Sundowners ................................... A.'il
11;30 ).m.KING-TV--Gun Fury .......................................... A-II
11:15 Lm.KOMO-TVThe Bad Seed ..................................... A-If
12:30 Lm,KVOS-TV--Race Street . ..................................... A-ll
SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 23
11:00 a.m,KVOS-TV--Malta Story ........................................ A-I
12:00 3.m.KlRO-TV--D[sputed Passage .. ................................. A-I
|:00 ).m.KING-TVS renkt hrough .... .................................. A.1
2:30 ).m.KOMO-TV--Poor Little Rich Girl .............................. A-I
4:30 Lm.KTNT-TV--Torzan's Savage Fury ............................. A-I
4:30 Lm.KTVW-TV--The Clay Pigeon ................................... A-I
:00 ).m.KVOS-TV--Seo Hawk .......................................... A-I
7:00 ).m.KTVW-TV--Blead on the Moon ............................... A-II
7:00 Lm.KTNT-TV--D[amonct Horseshoe ................................ NR
11:1S .m.KOMO-TV--To0 of the World ................................ A-I
MONOAY, FEBRUARY 24
t):30 a.m,KOMO-TV--Lure of the Swamp .............................. A-ll
2:00 p.m.KTNT-TV--Love Under Fire ................................... A-I
3:30 p.m.KING-TV--Crlme Wave ........................... , .......... NR
$:$0 p.m.KVOS-TV--Mlsslon Over Korea ................................ A-I
7:30 p.m.KING-TV--Prlnce of Players ................................ A-II
10:30 p.m.KTNT-TV--To Mary, With Love ............................... A-II
It:00 p.m.KVOS-TV--The Fugitive ........................................ A-I
n:3o p.m.KOMO-TVThe Seekers ....................................... NR
}:00 o.m.--KTVW-TVCareer ............................................. A-I
TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 25
9:30 p.m.KOMO-TVShootout at Medicine Bend ...................... A-1
2:00 p.m,KTNT-TV--To Mar'/, With Love ............................... A-H
3:30 p.m.KING-TVCottle Town ........................................ A-I
5:30 p.m.KVOS-TV--Famliy Secret ...................................... B
10:30 p.m.KTNT-TVeadlonds Of Dakota ................................ A-I
'11:00 p.m.KVOS-TV--Waoons Roll at Night ............................. A-II
'11:30 p.m.KOMO-TVThe Purple Plain ................................. A-II
!:00 o.m.--KTVW-TV---Consolatlon Marrla0e .............................. NR
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9:30 p.m.KOMO-TV-.-Copper Sky ........................................ A-II
2:00 p.m.KTNT-TV--Badlonds of Dakota ................................ A-f
3:30 p.m.KING-TV--Valennno (Part I) ................................... B
S'30 p.m.--KVOS.TVThe Golden Idol .................................. NR
7:00 p.m.KIRO-TV--Up Perlscol)e ....................................... A-I
10:00 p.m.KTVW-TV--The Navy Comes Through ......................... A-I
10"30 p.m.KTNT-TVThe Great American Broadcast .................. A-II
'11:00 p.m.--KVOS-TV--Small Town Girl ................................... A-I
11:30 p.m.KOMO-TVVlva Zapata ....................................... A-II
.1:4S p.m.KTVW-TV--Morshal of Mesa City ............................. A-I
1:00 o.m.KTV W-TVConsp[racy ......................................... A-I
THURSnAY, FEBRUARY 2/
9:30 a.m.KOMO-TV--Khyber Patrol ..................................... A-I
2:00 p.m.--KTNT-TV--The Great Amerlcon Broadcast .................. A-If
3:30 p.m.--KiNO-TV--Valennno {Port II) .................................. B
5::10 p.m,--KVOS-TVSudan ............................................... NR
7:00 p.m.--KIRO-TV--Vengeance ValJey .................................. A-II
Y:¢e p.m,--KTNT-TVMan From Colorado ............................... A-II
10:30 p.m.KTNT-TVHere Comes Mr. Jordan .......................... A-II
10:30 p.m.--KTVW-TV--Crlmlnal Lawyer .................................. Aql
11: p.m.--KVOS-TVWhen Tomorrow Comes .......................... A-II
11: p.m.KOMO-TV--The People Against O'Hara ...................... A-II
1:00 a.m.--KTVW-TVCrashlng Hollywood ................................ A-I
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9:30 o.m.--KOMO.TV--Stagocoach to Fury .............................. A-II
2:00 p.m.KTNT-TV--GIrl From Avenue "A" ............................ A-I
3:$0 p.m.KING.TV--The Lawless ........................................ A-II
S:30 p.mKVOS-TV--Last of the Comanches ............................. A-I
0:00 p.m.--KTVW.TV--Crock Up .......................................... A-II
10:40 p.m.--KTNT.TV--Llfeboat ............................................ A-I I
I1:00 p.m.KVOS.TVSusplclon ........................................... A-II
11:00 p.m.KTVW-TVFalcon In San Francisco .......................... A-II
11:30 p.m.KOMO-TV--Any Number Can Play ........................... NR
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one of Warrie Lynn's former
teachers recalls.
Warrie Lynn, a Catholic, is
the daughter of Mr. and Mrs.
War/told Smith, Jr., of San
Antonio. She roomed in a dor-
mitory with the President's
daughter at the University of
Texas, Austin.
She has remained close to
Incarnate Word High School
since her ,,raduation in 1962,
corresponding with faculty
members and making oceff-
sional visits, one just before
leaving for Washington.
"She was very humble about
moving into the White House,"
one of the Sisters said. "I
remember hearing her say, 'I
hope it doesn't go to my head,'
and 'I don't know how I'll do
it. Frankly, I'm a little
scared.' "
Most of Warrie Lynn's formal
education has been in Catholic
schools conducted by the Con-
gregation of Sisters of Charity
of Incarnate Word. Prior to en-
rolling in Incarnate Word High
School, she attended Incarnate
Word Elementary School for
five years.
Warrie Lynn and Lynda
Bird have transferred to
George Washington Univer-
sity, a private institution in
the capital. Warrie Lynn is
majoring in education. Lynda
Bird is a liberal arts major.
Both are sophomores.
Washington will not be new
to Warrie Lynn. She spent a
month last summer with the
Johnson family.
In Washington, Elizabeth
Carpenter, Mrs. Johnson's press
secretary, was asked why the
First Lady wanted Warrie Lynn
to come along with Lynda Bird.
Mrs. Carpenter said:
"I think Lady Bird wanted
Lynda not to be denied the
friendships of college. But on
the other hand, she wanted
Lynda with her."
Pope Praises
CRS.NC, Urge
Its Support
NEW YORK. -- (NC) --
Pope Paul VI has praised the
work of Catholic Relief Serv-
ices -- National Catholic Wel-
fare Conference as an "out-
standing example of fraternal
love" and urged all U. S.
Catholics to support it.
"We cherish the confident
hope that the Catholics of the
United States will continue
their steadfast cooperation
with this most worthy cause,"
Pope Paul said in a message
to the Bishops of the United
States.
The Pope's message was sent
in connection with the 1964
Bishops' Relief Fund Appeal,
which will be conducted nation-
wide from March 1 to 8. A
minimum goal of $5 million has
been set for the campaign,
which is the chief financial sup-
port of CRS-NCWC.
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Our Readers Write
Few Realistic Meal .Time Ideas
Editor, The Progress:
Your Lenten menus in the
February 14 issue provided us
with some amusement, if few
realistic meal-time ideas.
The dinner for February 21,
for example: after one finished
grating the cucumbers, chopping
the peanuts, shredding the co-
conut, etc, he would be too
exhausted to shift through the
shavings and eat them.
Do your SU home econom-
ics majors anticipate having
small armies of helpers when
they venture into the real-
life world of crowded, short-
on-time kitchens?
These comments are, how-
ever, a mere man's view al-
though my wife concurs.
If you can take another com-
ment from a brand-new sub-
scriber:
I applaud The Progress' de-
sire to counteract the simpli-
fied, "Ladies' Home Journal"-
type of advice as characterized
On Preventing
Editor, The Progress:
• . . In the United States
suicide has become one of the
leading causes of death. Sui-
cide is the seventh cause of
death in the .U.S. Among
those under 30 years of age,
suicide is the third cause of
death. Suicide accounts for one
per cent of all reported deaths.
The suicide rates are not the
same in all parts of our nation.
Seattle has the highest suicide
rate of any American city.
Suicide accounts for three per
cent of all deaths reporte d in
Seattle. One death of every 30
is a suicide in Seattle. One out
of 301
This does not seem possible,
but it is true. What is worse
is that each year the suicide
rate shows a small, but clear
rise over the year before.
No aspect of this situation is
more tragic than the fact that
most suicides can easily be
prevented. The reason for this
is that no one ever takes his
own life unless he has made
many repeated threats to do
SO.
Somehow an idea las grown
up that those who make suicide
threats are only talking. No
idea can be more false. No idea
can be more dangerous. At the
least any person making a
threat of suicide would be so
unhappy that any good person
ought to want to help the one
making the threat find peace of
soul.
No doubt there are many who
make suicide threats and do
not in fact carry out the threat.
On the other hand, if one
makes a threat of suicide there
is a very high degree of proba-
bility that he will carry out
the threat sooner or later.
Research has shown this
over and over again.
In certain well informed
circles, it is an axiom that a
suicide attempt can be looked
for from any person that
makes any threat to take his
own life. Warnings to this e/-
feet have been made publie
by the U. S. Department of
Public Health and other re-
spected health organizations.
Still the average person
remains in complete ignorance
of this important fact. The
great majority of Americans
cling to the notion that suicide
threats are only talk. America's
shocking suicide rate is the re-
suit. There is no doubt that if
the family and friends of
those making suicide threats
would only take these threats
seriously, suicide would disap-
pear for all practical purposes.
by Dears Abby, Ann, Sister
Ruth, etc. The possible harm in
accepting these daily columns
as realistic social and moral
guidelines is admitted.
But why should The Prog-
ress somewhat insult the in-
telligence of its readers by
attempting to superficially
glamorize your advice de-
partment by giving it a mov-
ie-star connotation?
If Reverend Nevins' "editing"
of Loretta Young's column bor-
ders on the actual writing of
the answers, as I suspect it
does, then Catholic readers
would much rather discuss
problems with him, in a spirit-
ual, rather than a Hollywood,
context.
The Progress is well-read in
our house, even down to the last
coconut shred.
Anthony R. Monahan
111 8th Ave., No. 187
Seattle
Further Suicides
Is The Northwest Progress
able 'to do nothing about this
terrible situation? If I may be
so bold, would it not be pos-
sible to put a warning about
the danger of ignoring a sui-
cide threat in some prominent
place in each edition of your
paper?
If I may presume to suggest
it, the editorial page, the
front page, or better both
would be excellent places to
put such warnings. My sugges-
tion really does not call for a
great deal of space. It would
be possible to fully convey the
idea in a few terse sentences•
Yet there is every reason to
think such warnings repeated-
ly givea would do a great deal
of good.
Each year more Amerieans
die by their own hands than
were killed as soldiers in the
worst year of the Second
World War by tbe armed
forces of Japan, our power-
ful Far Eastern foe in that
greatest of confliets.
As noted above, 7eattle has a
suicide rate triple that of the
nation as a whole. All but a
handful of these suicides
would have been prevented if
only timely attention had been
given to suicide threats.
Somehow the American peo-
ple just simply MUST be
taught never never never to
ignore any suicide threat. Is
there any better place for
them to learn this than from
the Catholic press? Suicide is
a mortal sin against the Holy
Ghost.
The potential suicide may
very well be insane. Care of
and protection for the sick is
one of the highest of all Chris-
tian acts. This is true be the
person suffering from a phys-
ical or mental illness.
Of course, no man can
judge the suicide. Only
Christ can do this. The Per-
feet Judge will give due eon-
sideration to insanity and to
anything else that reduees or
wipes out the guilt of our sin-
ful acts. Besides all else
Christ is very merciful.
Still it remains true that sui-
cide takes a soul to God under
conditions that hardly seem
favorable for judgment. Be-
sides all spiritual considera-
"tions, suicide is a great cause
of human misery.
Words can not describe the
mental torture of the family
of the suicide from fear their
loved one is in hell.
Donald Ebner
1478 Etbur Ave.
Lakewood, Ohio
Criticism of CBS'
(The following letter was ad-
dressed to the Columbia Broad-
casting System in care of its Se-
attle affiliate, KIRO-TV, Chan-
nel 7, and called by the writer to
the attention of The Progress.)
Gentlemen:
This refers to your recent
CBS Reports program dealing
with the Catholic Church and
federal aid to education.
In my opinion the program
was badly distorted and cre-
ated some false impressions.
First, it was apparently
predicated on the idea that
everybody favors federal aid
to education. It quoted so-
called educational figures as
taking this for granted, but no
one opposing federal aid was
quoted.
Such "educators" in the past
have distinguished themselves
mainly by their interest in the
taxpayer's dollar.
They care not where the
money comes from as long as
it arrives in ever-increasing
quantities. Nor are they con-
cerned about the loss of local
school control which inevi-
tably would hinge on annual
congressional appropriations
for local education.
I know of no basisforabald
assumption that the American
public or the Congress is in
favor of federal aid to edu-
cation except in sTeeial im-
pacted areas. The fact that
Congress has not approved
Program on Education
federal aid cannot properly
be attributed to Catholics.
Even if the latter were un-
animously opposed to federal
aid, or unanimously demanding
federal aid to parochial schools,
which they are not, their vot-
ing power cannot be sufficient
to determine the issue. It
might be more accurate to
blame the Republicans and
southern Democrats for the
failure of your aid to educa-
tion bill.
Some Catholic leaders have
insisted that if Congress is to
adopt federal aid to education
as a continuing policy, similar
aid must flow to parochial
schools as a matter of sheer
economics, unless Congress
wants the public schools to as-
sume the burden now carried,
by parochial schools.
I suspect, however' that
many Catholics, like myself,
are opposed to federal inter-
vention in school financing or
control.
I personally resented the
comments of one of your in-
terviewees who said that the
Catholic Church alone is pre-
venting federal aid to educa-
tion, or words to that effect.
-This simply is not true.
Such a statement should not
have been permitted on the
air because it was simply an
expression of religious bigotry.
Ted F. Berry
12237 2nd Ave. N. W.
Seattle
Menus 'Lead Astray'
Editor, The Progress:
First of all, a paragraph to
tell you how much we enjoy
The Progress.
Our first year as subscribers
is just ending and we have no
doubts that we are better in-
formed Catholics thanks to you
and The Progress.
I especially enjoy the instruc-
tions from Father Trese, (many
are Clipped and saved) and felt
a real closeness to the Second
Vatican Council via our own
Archbishop's reports, I must
add, in spite of his hard to
take remarks about females. I
could go on listing favorite fea-
tures, (mustn't leave out the
great editorials) but that is not
the main purpose of this letter.
Will therefore stop praising
and get to the point.
You are, by the way'of "Lent-
en Menus and Recipes," leading
us astray! Really Father, have
you had time to read them?
My dear husband is embarking
on his fii'st Lent as a Catholic
and is having enough troubles
learning the many rules new to
him without you adding to his
confusion.
To quote the Paulist Press
excellent pamphlet "All About
Lent" by George Wilson:
"To fast means to eat less
than usual. How mueh less?
ENOUGH TO FEEL IT. For
the purposes of today's Cath-
die, the American Bishops
have described the fasting
setup to include only one
complete meal a day. At this
meal you may eat anything
you wish including meat. Be-
sides the one good meal, you
may also have two other
small meals of the "grab-a-
bite" type. The two together
should not be as mueh as a
good meal and no meat may
be eaten at them."
The Most Reverend Fulton
Sheen tells us how fortunate we
are only to feel hunger for the
40 days of Lent when to so
many on this earth hunger is
an unceasing pain.
How can we even begin to
feel the slightest hunger if we
follow the Lenten menus sug-
gested in The Progress???
Your breakfasts of French
toast etc. on Monday, Pancakes
plus on Tuesday and eggs and
potatoes on Wednesday cannot
be classed as the "grab-a-bite"
meals. Ditto for the lunches.
We have been taught that
fasting is an act of penance
and that penance is a mortifi-
cation performed in a spirit
of penitence for sin. How pos-
sibly can these delicious, fill-
ing, nourishing and attractive
meals be suggested as proper
Lenten fasting?
You are leading us astray.
I wonder if you will also add
a feature shortly titled "Lenten
Sufferings Made Enjoyable."
Just poking fun, although I
mean every word! Enclosed
find my check for another year
of The Progress. Thank you
for a great paper.
Mrs. D. C. Abbott
Aldarra Farms
Fall City
Editor's Note: The Lenten
menus and recipes published in
The Progress refer to the kind
of fnodnot quantity. We hope
our readers realize that the two
small meals of Lent, regardles/
of their content, ought not to
exceed in quantity the main
meal.
On Smoking
Editor, The Progress:
I think your editorial on
smoking was evasive and mis-
leading.
For instance, you listed only
one disease as being caused by
smoking whereas the medical
report listed several. You com-
pared the harmful effects of
smoking with the harmful ef-
fects of using motor vehicles
and eating fats, disregarding
the fact that cars and fats are
necessities of life which we all
need but smoking is merely one
of life's frills which no one
really needs.
You made the whole medical
report appear rather question-
able with the statement, "If
smoking hurts you," or words
to that effect.
But didn't the medical re-
port prove quite conclusively
that smoking is a health hazard
to all smokers more or less, de-
pending on their occupation,
how much they smoke and how
long they continue?
It is true that Catholic' papers
don't advertise tobacco but un-
fortunately sam e clergymen
have taken to smoking in pub-
lic and, since young people look
up to ministers and priests as
models of proper conduct, any
example they set will impress
young people far more than
any paid advertisement possibly
could.
A READER
Tacoma.
Order
The order which prevails
in society is by nature
moral.
Grounded as it is in truth,
it must function according
to the norms of justice, it
should be inspired and per-
fected by mutual love, and
finally it should be brought
to an ever more refined and
human balance in freedom.
Pope John XXIII
Pacem in Terris
'00;hould We Punish
Son for Cheating?'
• By REV. WALTER IMBIORSI(I
Family Life Director, Archdiocese of Chicago
Guest Columnist for Rev. John L. Thomas, S.J.
Our boy, a sophomore in high school, was just sus-
pended /or cheating in a test. l maintain that n,e must
punish him. His mother says that everyone cheats in tests.
What do you say?
IRST of all, I'd say that his mother is letting her
son down. She seems to be forgetting the man
she hopes he will become when she excuses the boy
for such a lapse!
Cheating is an area which today has lost the sharp distinc-
tion between the black of wrong and the white of right. It is a
gray area which has such subtle shadings in adult minds that
the kids are left bewildered. How has this happened?
It happened in many ways, not the least of 'which is the sort
of cultural atinosphere in which we exist which makes it "OK"
for Dad to fix a ticket or Morn to lie to a salesman, but sinful
for Junior to lie to that same Dad or Mom.
The same atmosphere where all politicians are judged dis-
honest, but movie stars may change spouses as often as cars;
where education is equated with honors and marks rather than
the knowledge gained; and, where parents measure all too often
their success or failure by the size of Junior's first pay check.
Your boy was fortunate to be caught. Now he has a chance
--a chance to mend the error of his ways, to be punished and
then forgiven, and to start anew. Don't think for one minute
that he was unaware of his wrongdoing. Do not think either
that he doesn't know that he is better off relieved of the burden
of the guilt he felt.
Whether he needs punishment more than that received at
school is debatable. It would depend on the attitude of the boy,
on your success in communicating your disappointment in him, on
the reasons why he cheated in the first place.
Responsibility Must Be Taught
F he feels that cheating is some sort of "cool" game to be
played between teacher and pupil, he needs to be taught his
own responsibility in a class room. If he suspects that either you
or his mother are more concerned over the humiliation of his
having been caught than over the fact that he cheated himself,
both you and he need to do some soul searching.
Lastly, if he cheated because he felt you would not be satis-
fied with the best he could do, it is high time you clarified your
feelings on that score!
The sophomore desperately needs to be liked by you and
by his friends (an almost impossible combination) because he
doesn't like himself very much. He can no longer be the child
he was, and he can't get a very clear picture of the man he
wants to beeome. A mother usually recognizes these needs in-
tuitively, although she cannot always verbalize them to her
husband.
This may be the situation at your house and may explain the
stand she has taken.
I do not think she is honest yvith herself when she says he
may cheat because all youngsters do. Sttrely she would not ex-
cuse excessive drinking on your part because "everyone does"!
It is difficult, however, for a woman to detach the sin from
the sinner. She cannot see, as easily as you, that your son can
be punished without being rejected.
Any punishment at this age must not destroy the fragile
sense of his own worth for which your boy is struggling.
She must be helped to see that this boy is now more man
than child; that the steps he is taking now are decisive ones.
She cannot want him to be a cheating man, so she must not
permit him to be a cheating boy.
Sense of Values Wrong
HERE is no doubt that both high school and college groups
are permeated with a philosophy of cheating-is-a-game, which
drives them to spend more time devising clever tricks than d
studying. It is much the greater prize to attain a dishonest 991
per cent than have the knowledge represented in an honest 100
per cent. In fact, isn t it rather weird to be really 100 per cent
learned? And even as we decry this trend, we must recognize
that these young people are products of the adult society which
we have helped to build.
We must learn not to take corruption around us for granted.
We must denounce evident wrong-doing. We must be firm in
our own religious principles both at home and at work.
Why? Because children see right through adults and their
""pious" platitudes. The child depends on his parents to be honest
and courageous; the, are his models.
If only parents and teachers alike could recognize these
lapses from perfection as similar to the first faltering steps of
the toddler--erratic but growing stronger; unbalanced, but prom-
ising more steadiness tomorrow; independent, but always with
the hand reaching out for reassurance. They fell often then; they
are not through falling.
They still need all the encouragement, rewards, punishments,
and love that they ever did. We do not always find it as easy
to give as they grow older.
What do I say? I must say, do everything you can to help
him become an honest man by firmly guiding him to be an.
honest boy.
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